leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:08 AM on Friday, July 25th, 2025
Oh, my! I'm glad that you found it, but at what cost? She's something else.
Wishing you peace in your journey.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
WoodThrush2 ( member #85057) posted at 3:27 PM on Friday, August 1st, 2025
321....How are you holding up? You still in stealth mode? Or have you broken it open?
321maison (original poster new member #86346) posted at 10:38 PM on Monday, August 4th, 2025
Im 2 weeks into my 1 month vacation. Im still in stealth mode although I did end up telling my sister when we had a moment alone at the end of her stay. I showed her the PI video and let it speak for itself. She was pretty shocked but I made her promise not to reveal anything and she was good about it. She was the perfect actress which surprised me. Also after she left on Saturday I sent her everything. Videos, texts, photos. She doesn’t understand how I’m able to cope at the moment but I told her there was a lot of money on the line and that really the summer is about spending time with my kids. I’ve had a lot of time with my kids alone doing activities individually and together. Especially with my 13yr old. She’s really opened up to me.
As for my WW I continue to monitor her text and for some reason she continues to make up stories and lie to her guy for validation. She takes events that happen to me and spins them as if it was her. Took her on a date and to maintain appearance and she asked me to take a photo of her. After I took it I went to the bathroom and watched live as she sent it to him with the caption « thinking of you »
My friends were coming to visit us but their tire blew out on the highway so I drove 40 min to pick them up and bring them back home. She messaged him that she’s the one that saved them.
My dad made home made pizza and even the dough and she said she did it.
It’s really messed up thinking. Now she’s back to work from the vacation house for the next 2 weeks so I’ve saved up my cash to do activities with the kids while she’s working and I’ll make sure to overlap the end of her work shift so she can’t get involved.
One day at a time. Action plan in place. Thanks for asking and for supporting me.
alwayslove ( member #86533) posted at 8:14 AM on Thursday, September 4th, 2025
321... Any updates? She’s a truly talented actress, and I hope everything is going according to plan.
WoodThrush2 ( member #85057) posted at 4:34 AM on Saturday, September 13th, 2025
321...are you still here? Hope you are well . Please update.
marriedaliar ( new member #86003) posted at 9:26 AM on Saturday, September 27th, 2025
I am so sorry that you are here. You have a good plan, I do not think I have the strength to be that patient but I'm glad you do, it will serve your interests. Since your wife does not suspect that you suspect, if I were you I'd anonymously inform the affair partner's wife. Then your wife's AP will likely dump her. Your wife has a character defect. None of this has anything to do with you. You are an amazing father, everything you say here shows how you put your kids first, even with a freshly broken heart. Stay strong. You are on the right path. She cannot be fixed unless she wants to change, and it's very doubtful she will want to change until faced with consequences.
Muggle ( member #62011) posted at 8:43 PM on Monday, September 29th, 2025
321maison
I hope you have found the strength to put an end to your wife's shenanigans. You've held on and kept it together nobly. I admire your ability to not break down and throw in the towel until after vacation.
Unless it helps your case, I wouldn't waste anymore effort gathering evidence of her misdeeds. Gather everything you need to launch a full scale invasion with an attorney and dismantle her existence. Don't hold back. She had no qualms about doing this so show no leniency in legally eviscerating her.
No one deserves this, no matter what keep sight of the fact nothing you could ever do or say would justify her actions.
Liars will try to manipulate you into giving them more chances. Stay solid. She has shown her colors and you don't need to see more, as it will happen again.
Cut her off like a malignant cancer and begin the process to heal. Do not be swayed by her words, no matter what lies she throws at you to soften her inevitable landing.
Contact the wife of the man she's been sleeping with. She deserves to know her husband is a douchebag. Let your wife sort out dealing with her. Give that woman your wife's contact information and the evidence you've gathered. Offer your condolences on such horrid news but remove yourself from defending your wife or her actions.
Try to keep the kids out of it if possible. Have an appropriate conversation if necessary that is not filled with too many details other than life will go on, and an unforgivable transgression happened.
I hope the road to recovery is not steep and you find the peace you deserve.
